Bethany Detwiler

I often use psychodynamic and cognitive behavioral therapies integrated with EMDR and IFS, or ego-states work. With EMDR, the work goes from the inside out: we address feelings and beliefs so that behaviors and thoughts can change, by bringing the brain into the therapy. I use it when old memories or stuck patterns are still affecting relationships, stress, or the kindness you can show yourself. Alongside that, I use practical tools to improve coping skills, including assertiveness. What I am working toward with you is symptom reduction, and also more assertiveness, a sense of worthiness, and a deeper connection with yourself and with other people. I routinely check in about how the therapy is progressing, and I adjust my approach as needed.

The first one or two sessions are focused on telling your story, clarifying your goals for therapy, and determining whether my services are the right fit for your needs. We collaborate to choose a therapeutic approach that will align with what you need, and we set a pace that feels both comfortable and engaging. After that, our sessions begin focusing more fully on the specific areas you want to address. Sessions may be scheduled weekly or biweekly based on your needs and personal preference. How long we work together depends on your goals.

I work with individuals from age 18 through older adulthood, including elders, on depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and trauma. People also come with grief, stress, life transitions, self-esteem, and coping skills. I offer a safe and affirming space for clients of diverse backgrounds, and I am a proud ally of the LGBTQ+ community. I also work with people who are bisexual, gay, lesbian, or queer. I offer individual one-on-one therapy. I work with clients struggling with depression, anxiety, and/or trauma related to their relationships both past and present.

I bring a warm counseling relationship, honest feedback, and a new perspective on the story you bring. Outside the office I am often hiking, baking, making music, or out in the Lehigh Valley.

As an undergraduate I spent much of my time at a center for older adults, organizing events and, one summer, managing it, because I loved hearing their stories. I completed my internship at the University of Pennsylvania counseling center. I was a postdoctoral resident in Lehigh's Counseling Center. My private practice, which I still run, opened in November 2018. My dissertation was on minority stress and sexual minority older adults, including ageism, heterosexism, and quality of life.